Exploring 'tricky' emotions like jealousy as a class can be easier than trying to address them one-on-one and thankfully, there are lots of cool ways to do this.
Get some books that focus on jealousy out of the library. When I’m Feeling Jealous is great for younger students, or for older tamariki, try What To Do When it’s Not Fair. You could also try a movie such as Toy Story, as even older kids love this AND it’s a great way to ‘externalise’ jealousy by discussing how it affects Woody.
Sesame Street’s Feelings Song helps tamariki understand 'jealousy' as an emotion – and consider how confusing it can be. Older tamariki enjoy this too! The video will make them laugh but it’s a great song and would make a fun assembly performance.
- Have a watch, then second time through, stop after Grover’s first feeling – mad and sad about not having his wish come true. Ask: what's the feeling? Disappointment.
- Dave Mathews then says he’s jealous because he has a friend with a cape, and he’s proud of his friend but he wants to be a superhero too. Discuss the confusion that can come with feeling jealous. This exercise will help build students’ emotional literacy and get them thinking about jealousy as an emotion (something we seldom talked about).
Discuss jealousy as a class
Ask: What is jealousy? Are there any positive ways we can channel this feeling? Looking at this emotion constructively, it’s believed that the purpose of jealousy is to highlight what we want, and sometimes we can use it to help define our goals and drive our motivation. These are great seeds to sew when teaching tamariki to manage this emotion.
Feeling Good ‘notebooks'
Consider letting each student start a feel good notebook, and giving them regular times to reflect on their emotions, what's going well, and things they could do to tackle any challenges. For jealousy this might include goal setting, and communicating their feelings to someone they trust.