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Whare Tapa Whā and Keeping Pou Strong

Use the Whare Tapa Whā model to discuss bullying and how we can keep strong.
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Why we love it

Te Whare Tapa Whā is a great way to understand and explore hauora (our overall health) and what can impact it. This activity looks at bullying and upstanding and how these seemingly minor acts can have an effect on us and others.

What to do

One of Sparklers most popular activities is Fill My Te Whare Tapa Whā and this is a great place to start. Explore Te Whare Tapa Whā with tamariki and consider all the important whare pou and whenua which support our hauora (overall health) and wellbeing.

Revisit your Whare Tapa Whā, and complete this activity using the Te Whare Tapa Whā printable alongside the scenarios below, or print or show these scenarios to tamariki here.


Kōrero about which elements of our whare are impacted by bullying.

Bullying can be pretty far reaching in terms of its negative impact.

However, what are the strengths of these elements or pou that can help when we may have experienced bullying? How can these remain strong during challenging times?

What impact would upstanding have on our hauora? Which pou might be impacted in both positive and challenging ways?

Ask tamariki to work in groups through the following situations using their Te Whare Tapa Whā. You might print or use this editable PDF version for tamariki to work through these.

For each scenario indicate:

  1. Which pou has been impacted?
  2. How could you strengthen the pou by being an Upstander?
  3. What impact could your upstanding action have?
  • Scenario 1: A girl at school commented that my friend’s new profile picture is ugly. Then she shared it across our friendship group with dumb comments. I've taken it down and have no profile picture now. Dunnno if I'll put one up again.
  • Scenario 2: This kid keeps going on and on about my cousin and saying really mean things about her. My cousin is disabled and I feel so mad about it but also really embarrassed.
  • Scenario 3: My classmates won’t let my friend join in four square at lunchtime.
  • Scenario 4: A class bully puts my friend down whenever they can. My friend now hates school and pretends to be sick a lot.
  • Scenario 5: My older brother is often mean to my little sister, at home and at school. He gets into trouble for it, but only when he’s caught and he still continues to bully her.
  • Scenario 6: There’s a boy in my class who’s a bit different to the others at school and he’s often made fun of and left out of things.
  • Scenario 7: A kid in my class got super angry at lunchtime because someone made fun of her lunch. Now she’s getting teased, people are saying things like “stand back, she’ll lose it” when she walks past. I can tell it’s really upsetting her, but it's pretty funny too.

What next?

Try Common Ground- this highlights our in-commons rather than our differences

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