Bullying can be pretty far reaching in terms of its negative impact. But it's great too to talk about what the strengths are of each pou that can help when we may have experienced bullying? Some other good conversation starters might be:
- How can these remain strong during challenging times?
- What impact would upstanding have on our hauora?
- Which pou might be impacted in both positive and challenging ways?
Below, and as a printable and online editable version here are some scenarios to discuss. For each scenario think hard about:
- Which pou has been impacted?
- How could you strengthen the pou by being an upstander?
- What impact could your upstanding action have?
- Scenario 1: A girl at school commented that my friend’s new profile picture is ugly. Then she shared it across our friendship group with dumb comments. I've taken it down and have no profile picture now. Dunnno if I'll put one up again.
- Scenario 2: This kid keeps going on and on about my cousin and saying really mean things about her. My cousin is disabled and I feel so mad about it but also really embarrassed.
- Scenario 3: My classmates won’t let my friend join in four square at lunchtime.
- Scenario 4: A class bully puts my friend down whenever they can. My friend now hates school and pretends to be sick a lot.
- Scenario 5: My older brother is often mean to my little sister, at home and at school. He gets into trouble for it, but only when he’s caught and he still continues to bully her.
- Scenario 6: There’s a boy in my class who’s a bit different to the others at school and he’s often made fun of and left out of things.
- Scenario 7: A kid in my class super angry at lunchtime because someone made fun of her lunch. Now she’s getting teased, people are saying things like “stand back, she’ll lose it” when she walks past. I can tell it’s really upsetting her, but it's pretty funny too.
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