Scary or surprising weather events, are tough for everyone involved. Our tamariki may not understand how best to manage and cope. How we cope, will have a big impact on how they do - now and also over the coming months.
Top tips to support your tamariki:
Tamariki will cue off you — so if you’re okay, they’ll be okay too (see below for our tips to keep yourself feeling okay in all this too).
- Be mindful how much ‘worry’ you’re displaying, just be as cool as you can!
- Keep your tamariki away from too much worrying media and adult conversations about the impacts. They will love hearing about your plans to recoup (even if you don't know this how right now).
- Let them help out as they can – they'll want to feel like they can help.
- Answer their questions pretty matter-of-factly and in very ‘general’ terms.
- Keep the reassurance low key too – over-reassuring can make us think we need to be worrying more than we are!
- When you listen you don't need to solve, you just need to listen and be empathic. Acknowledging feelings helps tamarikin listen to what they need.
- And if they're a bit clingy, or off. That's okay and normal. When tamariki (or you!) are a bit panicky, take those long deep breaths or see our parenting guide on worry.
Equally important are the practical tips for looking after yourself too
- Give yourself permission to take a break; have a cuppa and stop sometimes.
- Be mindful of the news and social media, it can feel very negative.
- Remember to do the little things that make you feel good... stare at the mountains, walk to the gate, catch up a friend, mate or relative, bake something yummy.
- Stick to your routines as much as you can.
- Focus on what's manageable right now – take things one day at a time.
And if you feel you want to reach out for some support, there is great help available. Call or text 1737 to speak with a trained counsellor anytime – it’s free and completely confidential.
